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Nightclubs can’t survive in this economy on booze sales alone. It’s for this reason that today’s savvy businessmen are now looking to on-site restaurants to support their operations. Food seeds a room early. Smart new boîtes are doing big dinner business at 5pm—or brunch, even—with their clubs only a staircase away. Whether or not they eventually fill up, places that don’t serve food don’t do much business until well past midnight, which means their owners spend way too much money on soaring rents, insurance fees and operating costs. New York nightspots like Tenjune, STK, Simyone Lounge, Abe & Arthur’s, the new Butter and the forthcoming joint from Scott Sartiano and Richie Akiva all play this same game. Noah Tepperberg and Jason Strauss’ Avenue even does it all in the same small room.

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You may remember the case of Gary Malhotra, a co-owner of the club Quo in New York City. As reported in the New York Daily News and New York Post and noted on countless other websites and blogs, Malhotra was convicted in December 2009 of "sex abuse, harassment and forcible touching" involving Quo waitress Nicole Slama. According to those charges, Malhotra snorted cocaine off Slama's shoulder without her consent. Slama then filed a $3.5 million lawsuit against Malhotra in March 2010. Meanwhile, our own nightlife columnist, Steve Lewis, had written about Malhotra and Quo back in August of 2009; Lewis wrote again about Malhotra in March of this year in reference to the Slama lawsuit. Some time thereafter, Malhotra's attorney, Carmen Santiago (who is also his wife), had BlackBook served with papers declaring Malhotra's intent to sue for libel and defamation, as well as requesting an emergency injunction to remove Steve Lewis' columns mentioning Malhotra. Obviously, we have not complied with this demand.

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Dear Uncle Steve: I haven’t been entirely nice to my girlfriend lately. Well, let's say I did something really hurtful. After the incident, she told her best girlfriend of my actions, and as a result, her friend hates me. Since the incident, my girlfriend and I have "mended the fences" and are more in love than ever. However, her best friend still maintains her ill will and thinks I’m a terrible guy. Her attitude is constantly shared with my girlfriend, and remains a negative force between us. What can I do to make things better with my girlfriend’s best friend?

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Dear Uncle Steve: I’m in love with my boyfriend’s brother. Things haven’t been great between me and my guy for some time, but in an attempt to make things better, he took me home for a family visit last weekend. I met his older brother for the first time and felt an instant connection. I gave him my number before we left, and we’ve been chatting over email and text for a week. We both feel the same way: horribly guilty but incredibly and undeniably attracted to one another. The older brother possesses all of the qualities that are missing in my boyfriend. I want to go with my gut, but I think this may be morally reprehensible.

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Dear Uncle Steve: There’s a guy in my life now, not in any concrete way, but because we keep seeing each other out and bumping into each other in the most random places. Every time I see him, my heart flutters and he always seems excited to be in the same place as me, and we have an obvious chemistry. However, he hasn’t asked for my number! It’s seriously been at least 10 run-ins. He’s not married, and I know from mutual friends that he’s not dating anyone seriously. Is it too much for me just to give him my number and see what happens?

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Dear Uncle Steve: I’ve been casually dating a girl for a few weeks and I think she’s lying about her age. It’s not a significant age difference, like saying she’s 18 when she’s 16, but she told me that she’s 25 and I think she’s really 27. I only suspect something because the details of her college grad year and some details of the in-between don’t add up. What would cause a person to lie about that little of an age gap?

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Dear Uncle Steve: My current girlfriend is a lot more sexed up than I am. She’s constantly emailing me dirty things at work, wants to have mid-day sex lunch breaks and texts me about our sex last night. It’s incredibly flattering and I can’t complain about our sex life, but it makes me feel a little uncomfortable, like it cheapens our relationship. I really like her, don’t want to sound like a pussy and don’t want her to feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. Do I just play along?

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Dear Uncle Steve: I’m a middle-aged recent divorcee. Since getting back in the dating scene, I’ve quickly realized that things have changed dramatically from the '90s. Women are much more up-front and independent these days. After how may dates is it appropriate for a woman to offer to pay for dinner? And if a woman offers, maybe on the first date, what does that say about her?

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Dear Uncle Steve: My fiancé will only have sex with me after I give her blow. We’re party people, and we go out a lot (obviously), but she physically cannot and will not get turned on, unless she’s coked up. I’ve been enabling her because we’ve gotten into the pattern of doing coke and having sex, doing coke and having sex. But it’s gotten to the point where I cannot recall the last time (it’s been months) since we had sober sex at a normal time. How do I break the cycle?

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Dear Uncle Steve: I just turned 30 and I’m unmarried. I’m starting to majorly panic. I want to have kids, I want to be a happy wife. I’m not afraid of commitment, but I just don’t think my long-term boyfriend is "the one." Am I at the age that I just need to suck it up, give up on my hopeless romantic fantasies and settle down? I feel too tired to start dating in New York all over again, but I just can’t see myself being fulfilled forever with this man. Help me put this in perspective?

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